In life big things happen, stressful events that can turn your world on it’s head and you feel the anxiety and the impact the stress and worry has on your body. No matter how big the event, there is a normal time limit to the feelings of stress and worry and eventually life returns to normal, it may be a different normal, but the stress will ease or disappear as we get on with living our lives.
The problem arises when we spend our days with little worries and stresses that are having an impact on our bodies, but we are unaware of the effects of the stressful thinking until the pain it is causing becomes so great that it makes us take notice. But what if the worries niggle away causing you headaches, stomach ache, sinus pain, back pain etc and because it never gets bit enough to stop us in our tracks we pop a pill for the pain and don’t analyse the reasons the pain arose in the first place.
It is important that we start listening to our bodies and to notice all the little illnesses that we have due to stress as these become the big illnesses if we leave them unchecked.
To find out how your body should be feeling you need to get in touch with how you feel when you are at your most relaxed, when you are doing something where you feel at peace, perhaps in a special place in nature, at the sea, or in the country. Think to a wonderful holiday you had where you were relaxed and contented. Think back to that time and remember how you felt, how your mind felt and how your body felt. You know you are there, when just for a moment you don’t want to leave, when you wish you could stay where you are forever, when you never want to leave and return to the hum drum of daily living.
Your body and mind are intrinsically linked, when you are worrying in your mind it will impact on your body. It is important to get in touch with your body and how it feels when you are calm and at peace, and then notice when something doesn’t feel right and you can then ask yourself “what is it I am worried about?” It may be something small, it may be something that hasn’t happened that you have started worrying may happen in the future. The strange thing is our brains can be worrying about something at a level we are not yet conscious of, but if you notice the changes in your body, you can bring the worry out into your conscious mind and then you can find a solution so that you no longer need to worry, and remember if there is no solution or nothing you can do, then why waste the time worrying.
“There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will”
Uncertainty about the outcome of future events can cause worry and anxiety, but if we make decisions on what to do about the problem, even if that decision is to do nothing, as nothing we do will affect the outcome, then we can stop worrying. Worrying will have no impact on the outcome but will have an impact on our mental and physical health. We need to find a way to let the problem go and find peace living in this moment. This moment is the only thing that is real, the past is gone, and the future will take are of itself.
Is it time that you stopped worrying, wondering and doubting and have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how they were meant to be.